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Forget the Past, Forgive in the Present, Move on with the Future

It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an ever stronger person to forgive.                   


It doesn’t seem possible that it has been eight years, today, since mom passed away.  A separate room in the wing at the hospital had been put aside for our family to gather, while each of us took turns going in to visit mom’s bedside, waiting helplessly as she slowly passed.  How long would her body hold on without machines aiding her life? No one had the answer.  All we could do was stand by…and wait.

But this post isn’t about waiting for my mother to die…

Growing up with mom wasn’t always easy.  Yelling and screaming was a common thing with my mother, and I will be the first to admit I harbored bad feelings towards my own mother for the longest time.  Most of my younger years, just like my brother, were spent away from home, being a part of someone else’s family.

But this post isn’t about picking apart the bad things that happened in the past…

After mom’s transplant, when things were turning around and it seemed at though mom was on the mend, during one of our visits, Mom “kicked” the boys out of the room so that her and I had a chance to spend some time alone.  While the boys were off on their trip to the local mall, mom and I sat and talked.  We talked about many different things that day, but the thing that hit me hard was when mom apologized for things that happened in the past and asked for my forgiveness…..and I forgave.

This post is about forgetting about the past, forgiving others in the present, so that you can move on with the future!

One thing I have learned over the years is that life is far to short to dwell on things that happened in the past.  Why live your life, wishing that things were different when in fact there is nothing you can do to change those things that have already happened.  Instead, forget those moments in the past that you wish you could change.  Accept others for who they are, as some individuals simply just won’t change.  And learn to forgive…especially those who are supposed to be close to you.  Don’t wait until it is too late to mend a broken relationship.  Once you’re able to forget the past, and you have forgiven those who may have done you wrong in the present, you will truly be able to move on with your future.


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